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You’re Not Alone

If you’re staring at your screen waiting for a text that never comes, caught in a cycle of almost-love with men who refuse to crown you wifey, scared to open your heart again…

I’ve lived the patterns most women are quietly ashamed of. Everything I teach now comes from doing this work in the dating arena itself with attraction present, emotions activated, and real stakes on the line.

TRUST ME ON THIS

It happens to the best of us (including me! Me! And did I mention… me?). Whatever cringey actions you’ve taken to make it work with a man, I can promise you I’ve probably done worse. You’re safe here.

The zombie-like creature you become under the influence of love?

If any of that hit a nerve, stay with me

You feel embarrassed by how long you’ve waited on someone who barely responds and you’re ready to stop doing that to yourself

You want a real partnership! Not another “lesson,” “almost,” or situationship you have to therapize into working

You’re tired of pretending you’re chill when you’re actually spiraling inside

You don’t struggle to attract men, but you do struggle to stay grounded once you care

Are smart, accomplished, and emotionally aware…yet dating still knocks you sideways

You’re in the right place if you…

I didn’t get on the dating apps until I was 32. Not because I was scared of men but because I met men organically throughout my 20s: school, bars, the workplace. I had zero problems getting men to court me, and I honestly thought love would just… work itself out.

Spoiler alert: it did not

Leading up to age 30, I prioritized education and building my career over getting married. So you can imagine the shock and terror that hit me when I finally decided to take dating seriously at 32.

and your heart is totally safe with me

Hi, I’m Coach Theory—

I met every character the apps had to offer: married men, divorced men, “not looking but open” men, Asian-fever men, men who triggered panic I didn’t know lived in my body. Some were charming. Some were chaotic.

On paper, my life looked solid…career, home, friends, dog — but when it came to finding a husband, I kept waking up in the same heartbreak hell. Attraction would hit, anxiety would spike, and suddenly I was emotionally attached to a stranger after one date. Before I could blink, each “connection” crashed and burned more spectacularly than the last.

Over and over again (thanks, Nelly and Tim McGraw).

It was like sorting through the dumpster for the best treasure….

I knew I needed to solve these problems, or I’d be all alone crushing on some toothless man in the senior home

Third: I had no idea how much my past was quietly running the show

Family beliefs. Old heartbreaks. Inherited fears about love and marriage. Granny was absolutely cock-blocking me from beyond the grave. All of it showed up in the partners I chose, the behavior I excused, and how long I stayed attached to strangers way, way, wayyyyy past the expiration date.

Second: No one had taught me how dating actually works

Pacing. Discernment. Structure. I dated with hope instead of strategy, and my anxiety paid the price. Forget “anxiously attached”; I was FATALLY attached. Barely breathing. Barely eating. Completely consumed by the threat of rejection.

First: I had no tools to work with intense emotions when attraction showed up

Chemistry felt like certainty. Intensity felt like intimacy. Cue the situationship express. I had three “He’s The One!!!” episodes in one year (who’s counting anyway?). But here’s what’s not funny: one of them left me on the verge of saying goodbye to my life. He conveniently left out the minor detail of having a wife and three children. I lost my sanity to this man.

There were three main dating risks I suffered from:

Am I extra? TOTALLY! But it was all worth it in the end for the flowers, the dinners, and MOST IMPORTANTLY, the lessons learned!

The BIGGEST lesson? Dating anxiety and limerence are not lifelong identities. They’re states you can move through quickly with the right tools.

Today, women come to me when they’re done intellectualizing their dating problems and ready to move differently — on dates, in conversations, and in moments where anxiety used to take the wheel.

And I want you to know this: heartbreak doesn’t have to define your dating story. With me as your wing woman, it becomes a short chapter, not the whole damn book.

I went on 250+ dates over three years to slay everything standing between me and getting wifed.

I did what any slightly unhinged, highly motivated woman would do:

And I don't want to wash anyone's dentures so...

Now, my mission is to help ambitious women step out of situationships, avoid painful breakups, and stop getting attached to the wrong guys!

Men don’t need to be managed, fixed, or decoded! They need to be evaluated for fit

Emotional depth is an asset for intimacy when you know how to lead yourself

Wanting marriage and partnership doesn’t make you desperate or codependent

Attraction should feel exciting. Not destabilizing

Here’s what I believe about dating:

It’s not about hiding anxiety; it’s about having the guts to tell him, “I can get clingy when I really like you … just warning you up front,” with a flirtatious wink.

It’s having the FREEDOM TO BE YOU.

The Get Wifed Method isn’t about becoming less to keep a man. It’s about learning how to harness intense emotions in a way that moves you forward commitment.

Prep > Execute > Contain

It’s the framework I use to help women date with clarity, emotional control, and direction, so attraction doesn’t automatically turn into anxiety, fantasy, or self-abandonment.

Fun fact: it’s rooted in the same cybersecurity risk management frameworks I utilized in my tech career with Amazon, Costco, and lululemon.

The Get Wifed Method

My dark dating history is what led me to create

Forget being perfectly in tune with your inner child, or an expert on anxious attachment, or having clocked 500+ therapy hours… before meeting your Mr.Forever. A little bit of spicy strategy + dating 2 men 2x a week over candlelit dinner with a swipe of Chanel Rouge Coco on your lips will do you just fine.